Thursday, August 11, 2011

Honoring Our Fear

Lately the issue of fear has been really center stage, so I thought I would take another look at fear and how it plays a part in our lives. The first thing that comes to mind about fear is that each and every one of us would rather run naked down a busy street, than to feel that horrible feeling associated with fear. Fear is the harshest feeling we can have, as pure beings of love and light. Fear is foreign to us because it was not created by God, and so it is the worst feeling we can have because of this.

What I have learned is, that we dislike the feeling of fear so much that we will do anything we can, not to feel it. Crush it, swallow it, run from it, avoid anything that would bring this feeling up and kill it if we could. These are all thing we do to avoid the fear and it is the very thing that keeps us locked up as prisoners within our lives.

The thing is, by doing all these things we are not addressing the one thing that can set us free. When we first fell from grace and into this realm of duality, fear was more like a tool in our tool box that came with living in a realm of polarity. We did not need a tool box when we were in the realms of oneness, which is why fear is so foreign to our very souls and why it hurts so much. But as we found ourselves here we needed a way in order to navigate this realm and so the tool box began to fill.

We created tools like hunger which prompted us to eat. Tiredness, to sleep. Fear, to keep us safe, etc. We had an array of tools in our tool box and they were crucial to our survival but they were at this time, just tools. It wasn't until the tool of fear began to be used more than the other tools that it took on a life of its own and jumped out of our tool boxes and into an individual entity that stock's our every move.

So, with that understanding we can see that fear is no longer a tool but a force we must reckon with. No longer can we allow this "beast" to run our lives and steal our joy. It wasn't created for that purpose but it was created and we can not destroy it, but we can tame it right into a tool that it was meant to be in the first place.

What I have found best to do when fear appears, is to acknowledge it. Why you may ask? Because it is a part of you. A HUGE part of you. It is the part of you that has run amok and it is seeking it's way home to you. So, as we acknowledge it, it looses its intensity a bit because it has our attention. As we have our attention on the fear we are than in a position to honor it. "Yes, I am AFRAID." "Yes, I would rather not do this." "Yes, as I stand here in this fear it really hurts." We can not destroy it, but we can change it into courage.  The courage to feel the fear and do it anyway! By doing this, fear than begins to serve US!

As we feel the fear and do it anyway, we become stronger each time fear shows up in our lives. Than there will come a time when fear will come to visit, and you will offer it a cup of tea. Than you will get on with what it is that you need to do. In the end, when you host a tea party, fear will not be in attendance because fear has become courage and courage will be one of the most used tools in your tool box.

Here's to fear! (raises tea cup)

Just loving you along,
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  1. Cheers Kathleen. This blog was wonderful and was so true. I would much rather be courageous than fearful! Thanks so much for sharing and also for your recent support. You are a wonderful person!

  2. Great blog, Kathleen!

    I have way more fear than I'd like to acknowledge much of the time yet know that we have to deal with it. I've found too that people all respond to it differently--some with anger and some like me by hiding, but it has to be dealt with and it takes courage to deal with it!

  3. I know this feeling all too well. For maybe three long years I lived on nothing else but fear 24 hours a day 7 days a week. So much fear that in the end, I had literally forgotten what it felt like to experience other emotions. I had forgotten how it felt to go through any day without fear.
    And yet, it taught me so much about myself. So much still to learn though.
    Lovely blog from you again.